While Dealing With A Woman........

In a game of chess, you’re your objective execute your strategy and capitalize off your opponent’s non-gambit moves. Since chess is a game of life you have the same objective. In a world full of opportunities, you have to be an opportunist, which means capitalize off your opportunities. This world has so much more to offer the average eye. So, when a woman or women give you opportunity you have to execute, if not you will go in vain in her eyes and precisely never be granted the opportunity again. Who knows it could have been the opportunity that changed your life? A man who executes and capitalize is a woman savior. He’s held in high expectations in a place inside her heart. Executing signifies that you say what you mean and mean what you say. Which is a stepping block for building trust. This is something every relationship needs in order to be successful. That alone tells you how important executing is not only to you, but also every body arounds you. But all of this begins with self because self has to have a purpose a good intention in order to know what is need to capitalize and what is expected to execute your purpose. Once your self is right than you're right and now ready to get everybody else right. Mainly to the woman or women of your liking. As I stated several times throughout this back, listen, pay attention and study because of the importance it brings to everything you need to conquer and finesse your way into her heart and brain. In order to execute your purpose for the woman you’re dealing with you have to listen, pay attention and study her so you have the ability to execute where needed. Executing of her strengths and weaknesses. Nobody is infallible. The woman or women your dealing may not execute the way you would like or even make non-gambit moves in the process, but mastering the art of executing you have to be able to capitalize off her mistake and finding something significant of the situation. The same way you would on the chess board against a mistake by your opponent. The best thing about the woman’s mistake is that she’s not your opponent, she is our team mate and is put in position by you to help lift you up while you lift her up in the process. So, finding a way to capitalize won’t be hard because you know your purpose just as well as your purpose for dealing with her. 

Now for all good things, there are bad things as well, pros and cons, the con for not executing is failure which cause a big let down in expectations and trust that the woman and women you are dealing with have in you. But let me get something straight, failure is only the action added to your end results. Meaning just because you can not carry out whatever you set out to do fully the first time don’t mean you didn’t execute or that they failed because goals, desires and a lot of other things demands. For hard work and dedication. And sometimes you want be able to accomplish what you have set out to do on the first try or the second try, what cause the failure and the woman or women you’re dealing with to doubt you, is when you give up on whatever it is you set out to do or not even attempt to execute what you said you were going to do. This is what cause woman to second guess you or loose trust in you, so to avoid con’s carry out fully whatever it is you have set out to accomplish or gave your word about, “Execute”

Teenagers and their problems

Teenage is a dynamic age that lies between 15 to 17 or different according to different sources. This short time span brings various issues and problems to youngsters related to their health, social life, mental stability, parental relations, peer group issues and personal life. Teenage brings mood swings like no other age.

        

According to survey it is scientifically proven that about 16% of teenagers fall prey of depression before reaching adolescence. Depression brings many other issues with it. Like drug usage, sexual activity, bodily changes, lack of sleep, social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, smoking and many more.

Here I like to address some of the major issues that teenage brings. Teenage is an age where teenagers suffer basic hormonal changes and when they fail to recognize and able to endure these changes, they fall prey of depression, anxiety and lack of understanding.

DEPRESSION is one of the major issues related to teenage. When youngsters reach the age of 13 and so on, they began to feel major changes in their bodies and these bodily changes make them feel unsecure. Lack of understanding about their basic bodily changes and lack of education in this ground cause depression among youngsters. And cause is the mood swings. These hormonal changes bring mood swing that will cause many other problems like poor relationship between child and parents. Due to these hormonal changes cause youngsters, aggressiveness, insecurities, loudness and bad attitude. On the other hand, many parents fail to understand these changes and started to scold their child for having bad behavior and attitude. This cause disturbance among their relation. And at the same time teenagers feel secure with their age-group fellows. They started to share more with their peer group as compared to their parents. And this cause line between children-parental relations.

Then comes PEER GROUP issues. Teenagers relay more on their peer groups. Because they feel they can understand them in a better way. This is true to some extent. But at the same time good peer group is a blessing. Teenage is a very dangerous age in a sense because it can save you or ca n destroy you at the same time, choice is all yours. If you have with people interested in wrong deeds and activities it automatically causes your habits to change according to your surroundings. At the same time if your peer group have people with intellectual interests and future goals you will move in that same direction.

Having involvement in SEXUAL ACTIVITIES is another teenage problem. A lot of teenagers get involve in sexual activities accidentally or by mistake. Each issue is related to previous issue somehow. They all are interdependent. Some times its peer pressure and some time its porn watching that cause this problem. Teenagers think its an adventure and get themselves involved in these wrong activities without knowing its dangerous and unethical results.

Another issue is SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION. this is the Era in which social media is the great powers even more like mainstream media. Teenagers spend their maximum time on social media, watching and chatting. This drastic use of social media cause changes in their social as well as personal life. There is a major change in their sleeping schedules. They face relationship issues that brings suicidal thoughts. Over-use of social media cut-off their relationship with their family member. They gave more time to their social life as compared to their personal life.

There are many more problems related to teenage. But these are some major issues that teenagers have to face in their early adulthood. We need education in this discipline. We need to educate both children as well parents. These issues are real and we have to counter them in a positive and good way.

WHY UNIVERSITY IS AN ESCAPE FOR TODAY’S GENERATION?

This topic is near to my heart plus it suits the situation very well. The year 2020 brought that disaster named Corona that moved the world upside down. From the life of an individual to the life of family and to the stability of the country, that virus disturb everything. Not a single person helps him/herself passed that situation unaffected. Some of us are mentally disturbed, some are financially, and some are physically. Just like every institution of life, how could our education system subsist? I am a university student. The day when government announced the lockdown, we had our 1st final term paper. We all were confused whether we would prepare for next paper or not. But that lockdown happened to be last longer, too long that even a year has passed, we are still in our homes learning on our mobile phones and laptops. 

Why am I complaining? Am I not afraid of corona? Yes, I am afraid of corona, but I am confused and disturbed by all this situation going on around me. Every day we have news about number of patients increasing to this and that. But at the same time people are wandering around me Allhamdullilah uninfected and without masks. Hotels, restaurants, shadi halls and even parks are stuffed with people, are they not afraid? Yes, they are. But they at the same time they all know that life goes on no matter what. We must take precautionary measures to survive this pandemic. Lock yourself to some place is never going to be a solution.

My question is, when everything is taking back their original positions and form then why not universities? Most of our private universities have started their daily physical classes. Then why we are still on online mode? HEC has already announced that its up to universities whether they start their physical mode or not? Then what is the delay?
It has been a year since my daily routine has been a catastrophe. Every morning I wake up with links, which is too frustrating. That we must face mobile screens early in the morning that cause disturbance the whole day. Online study is a problem in the hundreds and thousands of ways for me. Sometimes we have connection issues. Sometime our teachers have that same issue or some other issues as well. Sometimes we have surprised classes, in sense that teacher come up with a link when it’s convenient for them and when we got to know about the link that link has already expired. This is not a single day issue. We have been facing these issues from the very start.

Why university is an escape? We all in that phase of our lives where we gave much importance to our peer group as compared to our families, why. We all are in the transition phase where we need someone to share. Very few students of our age share with their parents, mostly we have our friends as our secret keeper. We feel relax after talking to them. At the same time, we have diversified things to stress on. Like we are in a struggling phase where we are keep stressing our things that belongs to our future like job, family, relationships, study, and marriage. For this we need an environment that suits us. University gives us that feel. We have people there that matches our mindset. We can talk about things that we felt confused. We have routine, proper routine, where we know that these 8 or 9 hours are dedicated to my studies, my friends, and my teachers. University is not just a place to study. It is a museum for students. Where we discover new things. Things that belong to our past plus that led us to our future. That’s why university is an escape for me and for a lot of students of my age.

I have a question here. I have known many people asking me about why I am not enjoying staying at home, taking online classes? Why do I desperately want to go back to university? The answer is, because I enjoy getting up early, going to university, taking scheduled classes and then go back to home when its time. I like that routine of mine. I cannot enjoy sitting idly at home seeing my university days passing by. I love to enjoy every single phase of my life. I had enjoyed my school and college life. And now I want to enjoy my university life to full.

 

COVID-19 and Mental Health Issues

Covid-19 has wrecked the global economic, social, and healthcare systems of the world. The first case of COVID-19 was reported in Pakistan on 26 February 2020. As of today, more than 443,246 cases have been reported and 8,905 people have died. Due to covid’s contagious nature, physical isolation, and lack of proper treatment, people are suffering from serious mental health challenges.  

 

Pakistan is the 5th most populous country in the world with a population of 222,821,830. According to WHO, 24 million people in Pakistan need psychiatric assistance and Pakistan has only 0.19 psychiatrists per 100,000 citizens, one of the lowest numbers in the whole world. The mental health problems due to the novel coronavirus are widely observed across the country. 

 

The country went under lockdown in mid-March, 2020. The lockdown created stress, panic, anxiety, frustration, fear, and a sense of insecurity among people. These reactions are observed in ordinary people due to several reasons; characters may suffer from stress or anxiety due to uncertainty about their health, fear of death, lack of vaccination or treatment, and financial problems. 

 

There are a lot of other mental issues faced by people during this pandemic situation. This COVID-19 situation causes various mental health issues among public. People on daily wages hardly make their both ends meet. The lack of financial support for the family of a person who is the only support for his family cause serious stress issues. Business man face loses that cause stress among the business community. These mental health issues have some effects afterwards like changes in eating and sleeping patterns. And these stressful situations increase the intake of Tobacco, Alcohol and other substances that itself injurious to mental health.

 

On the other hand, this COVID-19 also cause stress and other health problems among student community too. Students face severe difficulties in learning that cause them stress. Some students are worried about their health while others about their grades. This pandemic not only collapse the economic stability of the country but the mental health of its native. These mental health issues effect different people differently according to their backgrounds. Pandemic fall differently on the people who earn on the daily basis like our laborer community as compared to those who have settled business. Talking about the jobbers, so they also face severe mental issues during corona. Companies fired a lot of their employees due to collapsed economy of the country and this cause stress among those employees.

 

Now the question arises that how we can cope with these stressful situations. And the answer lies in the mental therapy and counselling. And for this counselling you don’t need any therapist and psychologist but the strong mind itself. Try to understand the situation and make decisions according to it. At the same type our government is equally accountable for this economic collapse, mental health issues and shutting down of educational institutes.

We all need to devise ways to cope with this situation in a different way suitable to one’s background and surroundings.

 

 

Feminism and Social Media

Social media has become the most influential platform around the globe even more than our mainstream media. Because mainstream media is providing feed but social media opens the gate of discussion where you can react to anything instantly.  Why is this happening? The answer lies in the accessibility of social media and breaking boundaries of unfair classification of power, gender discrimination, class, race and ethnicity differences, etc. Social media has created a whole new world for all the unheard voices.

                                             

Feminism is a very controversial issue not only in Pakistan but almost in every country of the world. Social media has given it a gateway. The entrance through which all those people who want to end gender discrimination, sexism, and patriarchy can enter to form a group or a community. Women in Pakistan still have very little representation in the offline world but this online world of social media provides equal opportunities for both genders without any discrimination. The prominent example, in this case, is the whole “Me Too Movement”. This movement gained power when Hollywood actress Alyssa Milao responded against the accusation of sexual harassment against the Hollywood film producer Harvey Weinstein. She tweeted with the hashtag “Me Too” and asked women to use this tag while sharing their stories if they ever faced sexual harassment. On the very next morning, there were almost more than 30,000 posts that showed up with the “Me Too” hashtag and that’s how this campaign gained power. Accordingly, Pakistani women along with women belong to other countries also started to raise their voices while using this hashtag and thus this movement spread the world. Social media gives women a proper platform where they can share their voices, views, and opinions. Because in our offline world there are very fewer cases that are been reported by women. Why are there very fewer cases? Because there are cases where our guardians or the protectors of human rights himself harassed the victim. In this scenario how can we demand justice from this world and where to report the harassment case?

Through the power of social media, women feel free to share their stories and the other people who are understanding the situation help that women to gain justice. There are many cases, on the top, there is the Kasur Rape case where with the power of social media we succeed in getting justice for that 6 years old innocent victim of that brutal crime. Still, there are some unsolved cases like the motorway case where we are unable to get any suitable justice for that woman who was being forcefully raped in front of her child. We still didn’t get any news worth satisfying about his death penalty. We don’t know if there is a lack in our authorities or they are being pressured by high ups.

Where Feminism is getting positive vibes from social media, it is getting a lot of hate at the same time. People who are against feminism or considering it as a Non-Muslim’s agenda are continuously spreading hate on every post of Feminism on social media. According to my personal experience, I can say that people don’t have patience regarding the word “FEMINISM”. If you are putting anything on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter regarding equal rights of both gender or the basic rights of women, people mostly men (Educated as well as uneducated) started to criticize this concept of feminism without understanding the basic concept of it. They are just arguing by saying that this is haram, women should follow Islam, this is a foreign agenda and women want the freedom that’s why they are using this campaign just to get rid of the noble teachings of Islam. But at the same time Islam guiding us to respect women. Islam is the only religion that provides women with a lot of rights. But this concept is for those who are facing this unequal distribution of power and are crushed by this patriarchal mentality of our young men. On social media in Pakistan mostly men are against feminism just because they misinterpret this basic concept. What is Feminism? Feminism, the belief in social, economic, and political equality of the sexes.

Why some people are misinterpreting Feminism? Because there is a misunderstanding about the campaign of “Mera Jism Meri Marzi”. After this campaign, those who have a patriarchal mindset started to spread false news that women in Pakistan just wanted to get freedom and to break all the boundaries that Islam put on them. This is all wrong. This campaign has a whole different meaning that nobody can touch a woman without her consent. This is very cruel that whenever a woman tried to speak-up and wanted to get her basic rights and tried to demand her rights, our patriarchal society shut her up in the name of Islam. Is this fair? Then why don’t women are getting those rights that Islam assigned to them? What is the excuse? Why the state is not taking the responsibility for providing women her fundamental rights in the Islamic Republic of Pakistan. There is no way to put the religion just to shut someone up or to win an argument. Because no one is speaking against his/her religion. But this is manipulation, pure manipulation when you are forcing your views on someone without acknowledging other person’s views or opinions.

We can conclude this in this way that no doubt social media is a place where women get a voice but it is also a place where again patriarchy tried to dominate women. This is a game of words. Where you can destroy someone’s self-esteem through your harsh world. Where people are supporting rape victims on social media, some people are targeting and blaming rape victims by saying harsh words like “Kpry pehnny ki tameez nahi h? khud Mardon ko ishary karti hain” etc. but not only women are being raped, this victim category includes all genders, even the animals are not safe from some wild intentions of men.

There is nothing wrong with the concept of Feminism but the mindset and lack of knowledge in our society. We need proper education on this site. So that people learn not to treat women inferior to men. And there is no way men are superior to women when it comes to basic human rights, social rights, and political rights.

Impact of Media in Pakistan during the days of Corona Outbreak

Corona viruses are a type of virus. There are many different kinds, and some cause disease. A newly identified corona virus, SARS-CoV-2, has caused a worldwide pandemic of respiratory illness, called COVID-19. COVID-19 is the disease caused by the new corona virus that emerged in China in December 2019.

Covid-19 is a virus but how our media make it "The Virus" is the real question. Media enter the deadly symptoms that results in the death of a person into the minds of Pakistanis even before corona actually come to Pakistan. Not only media but our social media create havoc among people in the name of this fetal outbreak of Covid-19.

we all are aware of the situation months ago. we hardly put our noses outside our homes just because we are scared of getting corona. and all this because of the glamorizing, over-emphasizing and exaggeration of media. every day we came across news that shows the number of people died in result of covid-19. that make people even more vulnerable. all these type of news changed the mindset of people that its impossible to recover from corona. that results in increase number of deaths. people loose hopes after getting corona that make them even more vulnerable to covid. corona is all about our immunity, how much strong immune system we have.

But the havoc created by media reduces the immunity of even young people and they died of panic. media works on sensation and ratings. Today's media has less concern about the mental health of the people they are much concern about how they can get more ratings.

Its hard to find mental relaxation in that situation. Every day we open our social media or turn on our TVs, the only news was about the death and the number of increased patients infected with Covid. On the other hand social media was all stuffed with the false news and videos about the corona and memes related to Covid. How could a healthy person survive in such condition without having a mental breakdown? Again government implement lock down but only in education institutions, why?? Corona comes to Pakistan to get education? I strongly disagree with the closure of our schools, colleges and universities. Government should make it compulsory to follow SOP's throughout the institution but the ultimate closure is not the solution. The whole 2020 is a failure for our student community. We want to study but how? Through Online classes? No we don't get a single word through this online study system. I want all of you to think critically, follow the SOP's and try to build our nation otherwise we will fall apart.